2005

December 2005

I’m not in the mood for Christmas.  I know it’s almost December, and someone will remind me of how few shopping days I have left until Christmas, but I’m just not in the mood to think about it.

 

Last night my wife ordered a turkey with all the fixings so she wouldn’t have to cook a Thanksgiving dinner.  It seems that most of the family is going somewhere else this year.

 

I actually know some people who have all of their Christmas shopping done already.  Someone actually bragged to me that she had finished her shopping in July!  I hate that.  Some people say that all the early decorations are to remind us to start spending early, to prevent the Christmas rush, so that stores won’t have to hire so many extra people to work over the holidays.

 

This season is horrible.  As we get closer to the 25th of December, we can’t park within a half mile of the malls.  As we approach the season of love and light, some people honk their horns more and turn into grabbers.  Did you ever try to buy that special, but rare, toy?  Remember the panic to buy Cabbage Patch Babies?

 

In the midst of all of this, thank God, we can remember that some people still celebrate Christmas to remember the birth of a child long ago.  That Christmas I can get in the mood for.  In fact, I’m for remembering that Christmas every day.  I wonder how hectic things were in Bethlehem when Mary and Joseph came to town: no place to sleep, much less any place to have a baby. The Bible doesn’t say they had a donkey.  They walked the cobbled rocky roads.  I’ll bet Mary had back pain.  The Romans were around in force, for it was census time.  The government in all of its wisdom had decided to tax everybody.  That sounds a lot like today.  Nobody is in a good mood at tax time.  It must have been a fearful time.  I’ll bet they were glad they came.          -tony

November 2005

Wow, have we ever been hit with storms and crises this summer and fall.  For the most part, we, here in North Alabama, have missed the effects of the hurricanes and floods that have affected so much of our country.  It’s easy for us to be thankful that we were not hit any worse than we were, although many of us had friends or family members who were hit by the storms.

 

I am impressed by how many people, who were in the middle of the suffering, have taken time to be thankful for something, even though almost everything has been taken away.  One friend of mine lost his home and suffered a broken arm in the storm in Mississippi.  He was thankful that he had a place to live during and after the storm with family.  He was fortunate enough to have a small renter house that he can move into until his home can be rebuilt.  His children have moved back to their former schools. He is blessed.

 

I have heard the stories of families who have lost so much who are so thankful that they have each other.  I have heard stories of families who no longer even have all of the “each other’s”; they have lost family members and are still able to say they are thankful that more was not lost.

 

The resilience of folk never ceases to amaze me.  As we approach Thanksgiving in 2005, let us join many of the folk who are in misery in giving thanks for what we have instead of mourning about what we don’t.  Several years ago, I used an illustration I had found in the newspaper about thanksgiving: “True thanksgiving is a woman dying with cancer in a charity ward in a major hospital saying, “God has been so good to me”.  Today, I might say, much closer to home, that true thanksgiving is a Hospice of Marshall County patient, dying (with whatever disease), saying, “God has been so good to me”.  I hear it often.  It causes me to be ashamed of my shallow thanks.          -tony

October 2005

A few weeks ago, my wife and I were driving for several hours.  During that time, to break up the monotony of the trip, we listened to part of book on CD and to some gospel music CDs.  I love Southern gospel and the Gathiers’ type music.  What I became aware of, as I was listening, was all of the lyrics were about “me and mine.”  Rather than praise to God for who he is, it was about what I’m going to get by and by or what great things I have done for God.  I still like the music, but it brought to mind one of the facts about our times: It’s all about me.  Too many radio and television evangelists preach a gospel of “come to God and get” instead of “come to God and serve.”

I watched with horror, as you did, as the water rose and the people had to be rescued from rooftops in New Orleans.  I was frustrated by the slowness of the action that brought relief.  I heard repeatedly, “Where is the government?  Somebody ought to be here to help us.”  Yet, as time progressed, we became aware that in many of the small towns and communities that were so devastated, the communities had pulled together to achieve support.  Looting was minimal.  People pooled resources.  And, yes, even some places in the poor communities of New Orleans, people formed communities to help each other.

The Thing that has amazed and gratified me about so many of Hospice of Marshall County patients is that it so frequently all about others, when one might be focused on self.  It is always easier to complain than to do something.  I had an able bodied church member who once called to complain about a hole in the church yard.  He was afraid someone would fall into it and break an ankle or leg.  Another man filled the hole without complaint, but he did ask the question: “If he saw the danger, why didn’t he fill the hole himself.”

I think we can learn a lot from so many of the HMC patients and their families who are reaching out in spite of illness.  We can learn, always, from those who can move the focus away from “me” and toward “others.”  Some music is a prayer: “Lord, help me live from day to day for others.”          -tony

September 2005

Believe me, I’m still complaining about the heat.  Or, it’s not the heat; it’s the humidity.  Whichever it is, it’s uncomfortable.  As I gazed out from my upstairs window, there blew up a brief windstorm. I noticed the falling leaves.  Paying more attention, I noted that most of them were not green, but yellowing.  I thought of the fall.  Football season is upon us.  I ordered tickets to the Boaz games this morning.

 

The changing of the seasons always reminds me of the Book of Ecclesiastes in the Old Testament.  Chapter three begins with the statement “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:” [NIV] Most of us are familiar with this passage, but we may not be so familiar with other parts of the Book.  Much of it seems to be desperation and meaninglessness.  In fact, the writer goes so far as to declare, “Meaningless! Meaningless!” says the Teacher.  “Everything is meaningless!”

 

Sometimes we feel like that writer.  Life seems heavy with us, and the seasons always come unexpectedly, even though we know they are coming.  It seems as if one day we are setting out plants to grow in the sun, and the next we are pulling them out to make way for new.

 

Autumn is the season of rustling leaves and colors that stagger the imagination.  It is the season of gathering.  So too, the autumn of our lives is the time for gathering our stories and passing them along.  The world needs to hear that there is not only meaninglessness, but that there is meaning in everything.  Fall, with all its beauty, is a portent of winter.  When we remember that to “fear God and keep his commandments for this is the whole duty of man [kind]” (Ecclesiastes 12:13, NIV), we can find meaning even in the barren places.

 

Every season has its chores and duties.  Now is the time to move beyond meaninglessness. There is hope in whatever lies before us.          -tony

August 2005

August is already upon us.  I looked at the seven day forecast on www.weather.com and noticed that the days are getting shorter by about a minute a day.  It won’t be long until we will wish for the daylight savings time again.  Right now, my back yard may have to be bush hogged before I can mow it again.  The rabbits have gotten bolder.  They have begun to nest under my concrete driveway.  I see them run out each time I pull in with the car.

 

We may all look ahead and see the problems.  We may also see the problems today.  Jesus said the troubles of today are sufficient, without leaning into the future to see others.  The country gospel song says, “One day at a time, Sweet Jesus”.  That’s how we live life.

 

Before we become overwhelmed, we need to tell God that we can’t handle things today.  Then we give them to Him.  I’m constantly amazed at how He finds answers that I can not imagine.  (If there were a prayer answered in the way I expected, I’m not sure how I would handle that.)  When I start tying to run His business, I really do get bogged down.  I can’t even handle all of mine.  When I give it to Him, He can run with it.

 

I have no idea what the next five minutes will bring, much less the next week or the next season.  God is sufficient for the future.  Sometime, we need to simply say, “One day at a time, dear Jesus, is all I’m asking from you”.  Let us feel the joys that life brings every day, confident that even if we don’t know what the future holds, we know who holds the future.  Such words are more than clichés; they tell us an important truth.          -tony

July 2005

I am listening to gospel music right now.  The songs and hymns I am listening to bring me promises.  A few minutes ago, I listened to “Whispering Hope” and remember how many times in the middle of the night when I thought the entire world was going wrong, God gently spoke.

 

Right now, they are playing “How Great Thou Art”.  Although it speaks of the majestic power of God, it also speaks of how God comes to us in nature, as well as through His son.

 

The mind and heart transcend time and space.  We can go to favorite places.  We can soar like eagles and view the world.

 

God doesn’t whisper hope to those whose lives are being lived on cloud nine, but He comes to us in the darkness of night.  He comes when we are overcome with the pain and the world around us.  He comes when we are convicted of our sins and need a savior who can forgive us.

 

It is in the stillness of the midnight, another hymn says, that precious memories flood our soul.  What do we remember in the midnight?  Is it our sorrow over lives lost to us?  Is it the good times with others?  Is it how God’s grace has led us in the past and promises to lead us on?  Do we see the presence of God in the universe that he has made so strangely wonderful? 

 

The Psalmist says, “Be still and know”.  Take time to be still.  Listen to the music that plays in your head.  Listen to the words of hope that come “like the faint dawn of the morning”.  Through all of that, know the majesty, and the presence of a loving God.  It’s good medicine.          -tony

June 2005

I have noticed for the past several mornings as I looked out of the kitchen windows across my back yard, two rabbits.  For the past two or three mornings, they have gone by one of those green recycling containers that I put in the yard to keep the kids away from my single stem blueberry bushes.  They would wander around and around the container, sometimes climbing up and looking on the upturned bottom.  I wondered what the attraction might be.  Yesterday I mowed the yard and found out.  Water had collected in the rim of the upturned container.  They were using it as a water source.

Maybe, they have other watering holes.  Thinking, not of the rabbits, but of having a place for mosquitoes to breed, I righted the container so that any water would drain through the bottom holes.  I wondered about those rabbits, too.  Should I leave it upturned so they could have a watering place, should I turn it over to prevent mosquitoes?  What would the rabbits think?  A part of their world had been destroyed through no fault of their own.  Some great hand had made a difference in their lives, not to deprive them, but to prevent what could be considered a menace.

Sometimes when things go wrong in our lives, we do wonder what we have done wrong to cause it.  Many of us have been so conditioned to have guilt as a first response to any adverse event in our lives.

One of our patients may have said it well when he said, “Jesus had to suffer, and He was the son of God.  Whom do I think I am that I might not suffer as well?  At least because He suffered, we have a promise.”  Rabbits:  Not Guilty.  You:  Not Guilty, by the grace of God.  Sure, we face the consequences of our acts, but God is not about turning our watering place upside down because He is angry with us.  His first response to Adam and Eve was to create a place for them.  Even when they sinned and were cast out of the garden, His response was to clothe them.  Even with Cain killed Abel, God’s final response to Cain was to put a mark of protection on him.

Will He who so loves, not care for us as well?  Even when it seems everything is going wrong.  Thanks be to God for His unspeakable Gift in Christ Jesus, our Lord!          -tony

May 2005

I just got back from a trek to Pennsylvania to pick up my son and meet a friend of his (female, but not a girlfriend?).  He had flown in from Albuquerque, where he works, to visit the friend there.  Since she could not come to Alabama with him as planned, we drove up.  The weather was great for the entire trip.

 

Of course, we had a great time; meeting someone who was a delight to meet, visiting some sites we had never seen before (Hershey, Lancaster (Amish country) and Gettysburg), and actually sleeping late for a couple of days.  One of the most striking parts of the trip was driving up the country, through the Shenandoah Valley, then into the part of the country where the trees were still mostly bare.

 

For the first part of the trip, the roadsides were covered with blooming dogwoods and redbuds, along with flashes of color that I could not name.  As we moved further north, the forsythia was in full bloom, filling the roadsides and medians with the bright yellows.  Coming back, the plants were blooming further north along the route, and some of the blooms, especially from the Bradford pear trees, were scattering in the highway like snowfall being blown up by careless winter drivers.

 

It is great to see and appreciate the wonders of nature all year, but spring and fall bring out  the colors hat are so glorious; almost like seeing the very face of God.  Sometimes it’s a little harder to see the face of God in the dreary days of winter and the hazy hot days of summer.  He is there.  Nature points the way, even for the unbeliever, to a mighty creator who has endowed us with the ability to see and appreciate the beauty He has placed in our paths.  Frequently, however, when the rains come and the storms rage around us, we forget that these too are forces of renewal and new life.

 

So it is with our days.  Frequently, the difficult times cause us to grow.  Not the marvelous days of spring, but the lingering days that seem to be without hope are where we find our faith deepened.  So, we enjoy the days of bliss, and give thanks to God that He also walks with us in the “through the valley of the shadow of death”.          -tony

April 2005

Well, you’ve made it through another Easter.  One thing about the events of that time was the fact that there was a great storm, so much so that it appeared to be night.  Some have said that the darkness was caused by the storm.  Some have said that the darkness was caused by an earthquake that blotted out the sun.  Some have suggested that it was an eclipse of the sun.  Implied in the events that many have talked of was that God could not look on the crucifixion of His only son.

 

I sat in church a few weeks ago and looked across the congregation.  Three people I knew who had lost adult children were there.  I have sat in groups in which there were parents who had lost children.  I have been in the intensive care unit when children have died with the parents holding their hands, and I have stood by a father who watched his child die in his arms in an emergency room.  Yet, I do not know, nor can I imagine what it must be like to lose a child.  I pray that I don’t find out.

 

The Old Testament book of Isaiah says, speaking, we believe, of Jesus himself, that “surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows.” (Isaiah 53:4 KJV)

 

You serve a God who knows about grief.  He did not want to watch the suffering of His son any more than you want to watch the suffering of your child, spouse, parent, or anyone who has been someone you have loved and cherished.

 

Jesus, who knows our every weakness, also knows our every need.  Even when well meaning friends say they know how we feel at a time of loss, they don’t.  God does.  You can tell your friends to help them understand better.  You can depend on God, who understands perfectly.          -tony